paul le

How I Kicked My Facebook Addiction

As I was looking though the Chrome extensions that I had collected over the past few years to remove the ones that I didn’t use anymore, I noticed an old one that I had from my university years - News Feed Eradicator for Facebook.

In my late high school and university years, I was addicted to Facebook. In high school, I would come home from school and be glued to my computer, browsing Facebook. By the time I was in university, instead of studying, I would spend time scrolling through my Facebook home page - getting dopamine hit after dopamine hit as I clicked on interesting articles that caught my attention, or saw what my friends were doing with their lives.

I knew that I was spending a lot of time on Facebook, but I did not know just how much time I was wasting.

To help quantify just how much time I was spending on Facebook, I used RescueTime to help track my time. The numbers were surprising to me - up 17 hours a day on some days. It was clear that I needed to waste less time on Facebook.

At first, I tried some of the usual ways: willing myself to spend less time on Facebook, and attempting to go cold turkey, blocking Facebook using some kind of site blocker.

Those strategies obviously did not work. I used Facebook to communicate with my friends, and would quickly disable any site blocker that I had installed. I tried many other strategies before I realized that it was not going to work.

It wasn’t until halfway through university that I found the solution.

How I Did It

I eventually realized that whenever I was on Facebook, the majority of my time was spent scrolling though my Facebook new feed - that was what I was addicted to.

Around that time, I also stumbled across News Feed Eradicator for Facebook, a Chrome extension that takes out your Facebook news feed, and replaces it with a quote from a famous person. It didn’t outright block Facebook, but it did block the main thing that I was wasting the most time on.

Somehow, this compromise seemed to work - I cut my time on Facebook down to a few hours (a significant improvement over 17 hours), and years later I completely cut out my use of Facebook, using the Messenger app to communicate with people instead.

Lessons Learned

Although I did not intend this originally, as I reflected on this many years later, and having read The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, I realized that part of why I was successful in kicking my Facebook addiction was that I was manipulating the habit loop.

How Habits Work — Charles Duhigg

What I realized was that the routine part of my habit was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, seeing what my friends were doing, and clicking on interesting articles that came up. It wasn’t Facebook that I was addicted to, it was the act of scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed that would draw me in for hours.

The trigger, in this case, was some kind of boredom that I was experiencing, and the easiest thing to do to get rid of that boredom was to open up my Facebook newsfeed. Seeing my Facebook newsfeed would then trigger the routine, which would end up in hours of wasted time.

The reward that I got out of this was the temporary loss of boredom, and the dopamine hits that I would get as I scrolled through my news feed.

By understanding what my trigger was, and by getting rid of the trigger (addressing that boredom and getting rid of my Facebook newsfeed), I would prevent the routine (scrolling through Facebook for hours).

In the past, when I have tried to intentionally manipulate the habit loop to change my habits, I found that it usually didn’t work out. In this case, it was something that happened organically.

It’s clear though, that manipulating the habit loop is a powerful tool in changing and building habits, and the goal is to ultimately be able to recognize true triggers and routines, and to be able to manipulate these as desired.

Maybe in the past when I tried manipulating the habit loop, I just didn’t pick the right triggers.